The Three Root Causes Of Anger

We are at a subtle war with another person when he/she has done something which we perceive or judge to be wrong and our anger is an attempt to change them or take revenge.
This is the second belief (we had mentioned the first one in yesterday.s message) that is embedded very deeply in our consciousness that the world, including its entire people, should do exactly what we want them to, or what we think they should do. Perhaps we have not yet realized that it is impossible to control others and make them change. The lack of awareness and realization of this truth, which we will definitely realize at some point or the other, doesn.t let us become anger-free very easily. People will always make their own decisions and control their own actions, always. They can definitely be influenced, but they cannot be controlled.

When our internal desire of a certain type of behavior from people is not fulfilled, or in other words something against the above belief happens, our instant reaction is one of resentment or irritation or frustration or hatred which are all forms of anger.
One of the most important attributes of a great soul is the ability to not have even a trace of desire for revenge inside and the ability to forgive someone who has supposedly wronged him in anyway. Don.t we all acknowledge that such an individual who has freed himself completely from all anger forms earns our and everyone else.s respect and deepest admiration, and we give him the medal of greatness inside our minds and even physically? So doesn.t that mean we intuitively know that this anger is an incorrect emotion and peace, good wishes and forgiveness are the correct ones, in harmony with the basic nature of the human spirit?

We are at war with our self when we fail to make the world do exactly what we want, or we believe we have let our self down.The thought pattern that goes inside your mind: to fail is to lose, to lose is to be sorrowful, to be sorrowful causes me to become angry, as you look for an external cause of your sadness which, in this case, is initially the person at the counter and the other people in the queue (who would have known the time of closing and could have told you). So you demonstrate to others your justified anger towards them. But deep inside you know it is you yourself that has made you sorrowful.

4 वेदों के 4 महा मंत्र

1) दुनिया में 4 संस्कृतीयां अती प्राचीन है  …मिस्र, युनान, रोम और भारत…मिस्र, युनान और रोम की संस्कृति को तो धर्मांतरण वालों ने कुचल के अजायब घर में रख दिया…अब एक संस्कृति बची है प्राचीन..जीजस के बाद इसायत चली..मोहमद के बाद इस्लाम चला…लेकिन ये संस्कृतियाँ उस से बहुत प्राचीन है..उन में अपना वजूद है..अब इन में से केवल भारतीय संस्कृति प्राचीन बची है..और भारत संस्कृति में 4 वेद है..ये ज्ञान  सुन लेना…अपने बच्चे बच्चियों को पड़ोसियों को समझाना..
भारत संकृति में 4 वेद है..इन 4 वेदों में मंत्र, प्रार्थना, उपासना का बहुत सारा खजाना भरा है..मुख्य 1 वेद था, उस के वेदव्यास जी ने 4 विभाग कर के 4 वेद बनाए:ऋग्वेद, यजुर्वेद, अथर्व वेद, साम वेद.
उन 4 वेदों के 4 महा मंत्र है..
a)प्रज्ञानम  ब्रम्‍ह : तुम्हारी बुध्दी के गहेराई में जो बैठा है वो परब्रम्‍ह परमात्मा है…उस परमात्मा का ज्ञान अथवा उस परमात्मा में शांत होना, उस परमात्मा को प्रसन्न करने के लिए कर्म करना सारे विकासों की कुंजी है..सारे सुखों की कुंजी है..वो सारे ज्ञानों  का ज्ञान  है..सारे मंगलों का मंगल है.
b) अयं आत्मा ब्रम्‍ह : दूसरे वेद में आता है की अयं आत्मा ब्रम्‍ह ..जहाँ से तुम्हारा ‘मैं’ ‘मैं’ उठता है वो ही तुम्हारा आत्मा परमात्मा है..तुम शरीर नही हो, जैसे तुम माई-भाई जो भी कपड़े पहेनते तो तुम कपड़े नही हो  ऐसे ही तुम को ये जो स्री का चोला मिला है अथवा पुरुष का चोला मिला है वो यहा मरने के बाद भी तुम रहेते हो..
c) अहं ब्रम्‍हास्मि : ये बात तीसरे वेद में है..की मैं आत्म ब्रम्‍ह हूँ.
d) तत्वमसी : ये चौथे वेद का वचन है..जिस सुख को सामर्थ्य को , मुक्ति को, भगवान को तू खोजता है वो तत्व तू ही है; वो तत्व तुझ से अलग नही है..जैसे तरंग पानी को खोजे, उस को समझा दे की तू तरंग नही तू ही मूल में पानी है ..अपने को झाग, बुलबुला, तरंग मानना छोड़ दे तो तुम स्वयं समुद्र है ऐसे ही अपने को शरीर, मन, इंद्रिया, फलाना जातीवाला मानना छोड़  दे तो मूल में जो सर्व व्यापक परमात्मा है वो ही तेरा आत्मा है..

Ashtavakra Gita - Chapter 3

Ashtavakra : Knowing yourself as truly one and indestructible, how could a wise man possessing self-knowledge like you feel any pleasure in acquiring the wealth ? Truly, when one does not know oneself, one takes pleasure in the objects of mistaken perception, just as greed arises for the mistaken silver in one who does not know mother of pearl for what it is.

All this wells up like waves in the sea. Recognizing, "I am that" , why run around like someone in need ?
After hearing of oneself as pure consciousness and the supremely beautiful, is one to go on lusting after sordid sexual objects ? When the sage has realized that he himself is in all beings, and all beings are in him, it is astonishing that the sense of individually should be able to continue. It is astonishing that a man who has reached the supreme non-dual state and is intent on the benefits of liberation should still be subject to lust and held back by sexual activity.

It is astonishing that one already very debilitated, and knowing very well that its arousal is the enemy of knowledge should still hanker after sensuality, even when approaching his last days. It is astonishing that one who is unattached to the things of this world or the next, who discriminates between the permanent and the impermanent, and who longs for liberation, should still be afraid of liberation.

The great souled person sees even his own body in action as if it were some-one else's, so how should he be disturbed by praise or blame ? Seeing this world as pure illusion, and devoid of any interest in it, how should the strong minded person, feel fear, even at the approach of death? Who can be compared to the great-souled person whose mind is free from desire even in disappointment, and who has found satisfaction in self-knowledge ?

How should a strong-minded  person who knows that what he sees is by its very nature nothing, consider one thing to be grasped and another to be rejected ?An object of enjoyment that comes of itself is neither painful nor pleasurable for someone who has eliminated attachment, and who is free from dualism and from desire.

35 Fast Tips to Make This Your Best Year Yet - Robin Sharma

1. Remember that the quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thoughts.
2. Keep the promises you make to others – and to yourself.
3. The project that most scares you is the project you need to do first.
4. Small daily improvements are the key to staggering long-term results.
5. Stop being busy being busy. This New Year, clean out the distractions from your work+life and devote to a monomaniacal focus on the few things that matter.
6. Read “The War of Art”.
7. Watch “The Fighter”.
8. In a world where technology is causing some of us to forget how to act human, become the politest person you know.
9. Remember that all great ideas were first ridiculed.
10. Remember that critics are dreamers gone scared.
11. Be “Apple-Like” in your obsession with getting the details right.
12. Take 60 minutes every weekend to craft a blueprint for the coming seven days. As Saul Bellow once said: “A plan relieves you of the torment of choice.”
13. Release your need to be liked this New Year. You can’t be a visionary if you long to be liked.
14. Disrupt or be disrupted.
15. Hire a personal trainer to get you into the best shape of your life. Superstars focus on the value they receive versus the cost of the service.
16. Give your teammates, customers and family one of the greatest gifts of all: the gift of your attention (and presence).
17. Every morning ask yourself: “How may I best serve the most people?”
18. Every night ask yourself: “What 5 good things happened to me this day?”
19. Don’t waste your most valuable hours (the morning) doing low value work.
20. Leave every project you touch at work better than you found it.
21. Your job is not just to work. Your job is to leave a trail of leaders behind you.
22. A job is not “just a job”. Every job is a gorgeous vehicle to express your gifts and talents – and to model exceptionalism for all around you.
23. Fears unfaced become your limits.
24. Get up at 5 am and take 60 minutes to prepare your mind, body, emotions and spirit to be remarkable during the hours that follow. Being a superstar is not the domain of the gifted but the prepared.
25. Write love letters to your family.
26. Smile at strangers.
27. Drink more water.
28. Keep a journal. Your life’s story is worth recording.
29. Do more than you’re paid to do and do work that leaves your teammates breathless.
30. Leave your ego at the door every morning.
31. Set 5 daily goals every morning. These small wins will lead to nearly 2000 little victories by the end of the year.
32. Say “please” and “thank you”.
33. Remember the secret to happiness is doing work that matters and being an instrument of service.
34. Don’t be the richest person in the graveyard. Health is wealth.
35. Life’s short. The greatest risk is risk-less living. And settling for average.

By Robin Sharma

Generosity of the Heart Is the Beginning of Meditation

We are going to talk about something that needs a mind that can penetrate very profoundly. We must begin very near because we cannot go very far if we do not know how to begin very close, if we do not know how to take the first step. The flowering of meditation is goodness, and the generosity of the heart is the beginning of meditation. We have talked about many things concerning life, authority, ambition, fear, greed, envy, death, time; we have talked about many things. If you observe, if you have gone into it, if you have listened rightly, those are all the foundation for a mind that is capable of meditating. You cannot meditate if you are ambitious, you may play with the idea of meditation. If your mind is authority-ridden, bound by tradition, accepting, following, you will never know what it is to meditate on this extraordinary beauty.It is the pursuit of its own fulfillment through time that prevents generosity. And you need a generous mind, not only a wide mind, a mind that is full of space, but also a heart that gives without thought, without a motive, and that does not seek any reward in return. But to give whatever little one has or however much one has that quality of spontaneity of outgoing, without any restriction, without any withholding, is necessary. There can be no meditation without generosity, without goodness which is to be free from pride, never to climb the ladder of success, never to know what it is to be famous; which is to die to whatever has been achieved, every minute of the day. It is only in such fertile ground that goodness can grow, can flower. And meditation is the flowering of goodness. - J. Krishnamurti, The Book of Life

The Lamp Of Hope

You create the future basing yourself on what you think, feel and do in the present. If you act according to your values, it is easy for you to trust in your destiny. That strengthens your hope that all will go well, and, if it doesn’t, you know and trust your inner resources or treasures to be able to deal with things and change. That trust feeds the enthusiasm, the motor energy that, along with motivation and passion, helps us to advance.

When you lose courage and you feel weak, when you feel insecure and do not see with clarity where to go towards, hope lights the way for you to carry on going forward. If you fall, get up again and carry on looking ahead. Don't look back. Don't let your past be a burden that is too heavy and prevents you from advancing. Focus your vision on your objective and on all your potential to achieve it.

Whatever happens, keep the lamp of hope lit. You can. You will achieve it. Change will become reality. You will free yourself from the shadows of fears, blockages and the other limitations that weaken you.
Live each situation as an opportunity. Learn from criticism and failures. On living life as a constant opportunity for personal growth and learning, you keep hope always alive.

Give yourself moments of silence on beginning each day, during the day and on finishing the day, to connect with your inner self. That way your awareness stays awake, the lamp of your hope, your motivation and your values remains lit. 

Ashtavakra Gita - Chapter 2

Janak said As I alone give light to this body, so I do to the world, As a result the whole world is mine, or alternatively nothing is. So now that I have abandoned the body and everything else, by some good fortune or other my true self becomes apparent. Just as waves, foam and bubbles are not different from Water, so all this which has emanated from oneself, is no other than oneself. In the same way that when analysed cloth is found to be just thread, so when all this is analysed it is found to be no other than oneself. Just as a sugar produced from the juice of the sugarcane is permeated with the same taste, so all this, produced out of me, is completely permeated with myself.

From the ignorance of oneself, the world appears, and by knowledge of oneself it appears no longer. From ignorance of the rope a snake appears, and by knowledge of it it appears no longer. Shinning is my essential nature, and I am nothing over and beyond that. When the world shines forth, it is simply me that is shinning forth.

All this appears in me imagined due to ignorance, just as a snake appears in the rope, the mirage of water in the sunlight, and silver in mother of pearl. All this, which has originated out of me, is resolved back into me too, like  a jug back into clay, a wave into water and a bracelet into gold.

How wonderful I am ! Glory to me, for whom there is no destruction, remaining even beyond the destruction of the world from Bhrama down to the last clump of grass.
How wonderful I am ! Glory to me, solitary even through with a body, neither going nor coming anywhere, I who abide forever, filling all that is.
How wonderful I am ! Glory to me, I who possess nothing at all, or alternatively possess everything that speech and mind refer to.
Knowledge, what is to be known, and the knower - these three do not exist in reality. I am spotless reality in which they appear because of ignorance.
Truly dualism is the root of suffering. There is no other remedy for it than the realisation that all this that we see in unreal, and that I am the one stainless reality , consisting of consciousness. I am pure awareness though through ignorance I have imagined myself to have additional attributes. By continually reflecting like this, my dwelling place is in the Unimagined.

For me here neither bondage nor liberation. The illusion has list its basis and ceased. Truly all this exists in me,  though ultimately it does not even exist in me. I have recognized that all this and my body are nothing, while my true self is nothing but pure consciousness, so what is there for the imagination work on now ? The body, heaven and hell, bondage and liberation, and fear too, all this is pure imagination. What is there left to do for me whose very nature is consciousness? Truly I donot even see dualism in a crowd of people, so what would I gain by replacing it with a wilderness?

I am not the body, nor is the body mine. I am not living being. I am consciousness. It was my thirst for living that was my bondage. Truly it is in the limitless ocean of myself, that stimulated by the colourful waves of the worlds everything suddenly arises in the wind of consciousness.  It is in the limitless ocean of myself, that the wind of thought subsides, and the trader-like living being's world boat is wrecked by lack of goods.

How wonderful it is that in the limitless ocean of myself the waves of living beings arise, collide, play and disappear, according to their natures.